My father passed away on the winter solstice only a week ago.
My therapist explained it to me once while doing a session at EMDR for adult and childhood PTSD
“We’re just removing splinters Suzanne ”
I found this very very helpful.
It’s kind of hard to explain…
I loved my parents very much.
I lost my mom 16 years ago and my dad only a week ago, it’s been incredibly painful, but after working so hard to resolve my complicated passed, I no longer need to sit in silence.
I’m at peace that I don’t have to pretend any more.
I want to live an Authentic life and maybe help others in some small way.
I found this article which explain it much better than I ever could.
I love my parents very much I tried to take the good and leave the bad behind but the strange feelings and grief are very difficult to deal with on a daily basis.
It not ok!
“For adult survivors, the losses that accompany child maltreatment are cloaked in silence, lost in the shrouds of history, and largely unrecognized,” Bloom states. “But these ‘little deaths’ linger as unremoved splinters in the survivor’s psyche for decades.” (Dr. Bloom)
Great blog link below
The Invisible scares
Dad, thanks for teaching me how to survive & how to forgive ….
My visit with Russ June 3 2016 New York
In his Zen Tradition he told me to
He said “Clear your mind ”
“think of nothing ”
After the storm by Suzanne M. Clements 1985 acrylics